Has dating for money backfired on some women??

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sihle43

Has dating for money backfired on some women??

Post by sihle43 »

Listen :thinking:

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sentle21

Post by sentle21 »

I regret dating for love and not money at that age
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fidel57

Post by fidel57 »

My first love dumped me for a tenderpreneur when I had just graduated and couldn’t get a proper job. Was a waiter and probably making R7-R8K.

Tender dude bought her a Merc, she dropped out of varsity and heartbroken I picked up the pieces. It wasn’t even months later when I got a proper job. Six years later I bumped into her and she was divorced, the tenders had dried up and she faced life in her 30s with a minimum wage job.

While my life isn’t perfect I’m sorted. She called last year asking for R200 and I blocked her. It wasn’t about the money, she made her bed and she shouldn’t think of me through hardships when I wasn’t good enough a decade back.
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ken76

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fidel57 wrote: Wed Mar 18, 2026 2:26 am My first love dumped me for a tenderpreneur when I had just graduated and couldn’t get a proper job. Was a waiter and probably making R7-R8K.

Tender dude bought her a Merc, she dropped out of varsity and heartbroken I picked up the pieces. It wasn’t even months later when I got a proper job. Six years later I bumped into her and she was divorced, the tenders had dried up and she faced life in her 30s with a minimum wage job.

While my life isn’t perfect I’m sorted. She called last year asking for R200 and I blocked her. It wasn’t about the money, she made her bed and she shouldn’t think of me through hardships when I wasn’t good enough a decade back.
Good job bro. Never go back, betrayal will always come back 100 fold

you handled that very well :thumbsup: , a slow process is WAY more valuable and stable than a quick fix
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fidel57

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ken76 wrote: Wed Mar 18, 2026 2:27 am
fidel57 wrote: Wed Mar 18, 2026 2:26 am My first love dumped me for a tenderpreneur when I had just graduated and couldn’t get a proper job. Was a waiter and probably making R7-R8K.

Tender dude bought her a Merc, she dropped out of varsity and heartbroken I picked up the pieces. It wasn’t even months later when I got a proper job. Six years later I bumped into her and she was divorced, the tenders had dried up and she faced life in her 30s with a minimum wage job.

While my life isn’t perfect I’m sorted. She called last year asking for R200 and I blocked her. It wasn’t about the money, she made her bed and she shouldn’t think of me through hardships when I wasn’t good enough a decade back.
Good job bro. Never go back, betrayal will always come back 100 fold

you handled that very well :thumbsup: , a slow process is WAY more valuable and stable than a quick fix
It’s also about self-respect brother. I’m not an option on dial. I worked on myself too much to do that to myself.
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sifiso65

Post by sifiso65 »

lol as smart as that sounds there's no formula
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yolanda69

Post by yolanda69 »

There is definitely a formula

Social media is trying to erase the formula
in Zulu sithi "indlela ibuzwa kwaba phambili"
But social media says you have rights and do whatever you want. Older women no longer guide young girls and impart wisdom on them.
But ngiyikha phezulu, there's a lot more.
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katlego9

Post by katlego9 »

The moment they they realize it’s too late most of the time
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masaka453

Post by masaka453 »

katlego9 wrote: Wed Mar 18, 2026 2:30 am The moment they they realize it’s too late most of the time
They start being vile and hate men for no reasons
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walter32

Post by walter32 »

And still have high standards also, because now they "know " they want.
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zakes03

Post by zakes03 »

Bra now they realizing this at 27 even not 35... Having fun in the 20s
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ndlela68

Post by ndlela68 »

all the girls that where hot back in the day are not married now. because no 1 wants them now
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